Saturday, September 15, 2007

Hit me baby one more tyme...

After the encounter with my first love, I vowed not to date any man again. I don't know what went wrong. We seemed perfect for each other but we were constantly arguing. We had to let go of each other for the betterment of each other. He still loves me and I still love him but we can't be together as of now.... why? I don't know. His family moved to Texas and I'm here.. just stuck in Ohio. .hmmmmmmmm

the moment phil walked away, I felt like every good thing left me , but I was wrong........Lekan came along

He was rough and tough.. nothing like what I wanted in a guy but he was good to me. He was caring. loving, and trust worthy. He was new to love even though he had dated many girls. I could recall a day I wanted to enter the hallway, he walked into tha hallway, kicked the door open for me to enter. The door almost hit me and I wondered why he couldn't just hold it for me to walk in. ... he did a lot of things that I cannot even start to mention. More than anything, he wanted to be loved. He wanted me to love him as much as he loved me but it was hard. I had loved phil and i could never love anyone as much as I had loved him. Lekan knew about phil; he urged me to let go of the past. "I love you and I believe I deserve your love," he said sometimes ago.

"That's really wierd," I yelled out loud one day. I couldn't recall what he did but he got offended when I said he was a wierd person. "I'm wierd? that means I'm not good enough for you. You can't appreciate what I do? You don't even appreciate me. You can't beg me for anything.. I guess it's impossible since you have someone you cry to on the phone!"

I was speechless for almost ten minutes. All I could ask myself was does he even know what wierd means? anyway, he apologised. We became closer and people thought we were dating. I guess it's easy for them to say because we hung out a lot. His presence brings joy and laughter but I was not what he wanted me to be. He wanted me to be deeply in love but I couldn't force myself. We decided to give us a try but I was unhappy because nothing changed. We were just the way we used to be. Lekan has a problem... when it comes to saying "I don't know what that means...or can u explain better because I don't want to misinterprete you?"... he had big issues. He'd rather pretend to know something and just fuse around than admit to not knowing it and get help.

I went to the salon on saturday and he was supposed to pick me up. He came with a very nice car and I wondered where he got it from. He told me his car broke down and he had to rent a car for the meantime. I entered the car, he hit the start button and the car started. "hgmmmm impressive!" was my response and we both laughed. We listened to the same song over and over and I told him to change the cd or skip to the next song. He said he was not going to change it because he liked the song.

{ ABout 3 hours later... evening}

We were heading to a friend's house and the same song was still playing. " My friend set this song to repeat itself so we're stuck with it", he said. " You can change it now that he's not here, I'm sick of hearing the same song over and over," I said. "I'm not changing it!", he replied. "You are not changing it or you don't know how to? I don't like the fact that u tend to pretend when u don't know something. If I don't know something, I let u or anyone know. that's how u learn. there's no need to act like we know all." was my response.

"GBOOSHHHHHHHHHHHHH"








.................sound of a heavy blow on my head. If he wasn't driving, it would have been worst. "How dare you talk to me like that. You need to shut the hell up sometimes. You think you can just insult me and get away with it? All you do is open your mouth to insult believing you're the smartest. Don't you know it hurts when you talk like that? I know how to change the song........" HE yelled at the top of his voice and fumbled with the cd player. I sat there holding my head in shock. The fist was heavy and painful; I was hurt and i almost cried. I took my phone and he looked at me surprised; he thought I was going to dial 911.

Instead, I deleted his number and messages from my phone. When we got to the red light, he held my hand and said sorry.

"Get your hands off me now!".... I yelled non stop and he left me alone. He drove me home and I went straight to bed. About an hour later, my phone rang and.... "hello sade, I'm sorry for what happened today, I didn't mean to..."

"Look here lekan, I don't want to talk about this nonsence. Good night and Good bye" **tone**

QUESTION 4 ALL:

What will you do if you were sade?
Why do some men think hitting a lady is the solution to problems?
What do you think of the story?
What would you have changed about any character in this short story?

NOTE: Originally posted on NW when I first wrote it.

20 comments:

eddiie said...

Firtiiieeesss...lol

eddiie said...

Now...look every lady will swear till the skies darken but there is nothing like i will never fall in love again with another man..

Well..there is a way men approach that will certainly create that confidence but i mean some ladies are right to say "all men are the same"...apart from me...lol

But i hope your new love is not goin to be "i wll neber love another man..Good luck lady...

Kafo said...

WHAT

okay I think Sade did what she needed to do of course she should have seen the warning signs earlier but the moment he got violent she ended it.


I honestly would have found a way to dump him before the car scene. anybody that rubs mii the wrong way is automatically put on the short list. i don't suffer fools


I wasn't expecting the slap i was expecting him to do something but i didn't think he would get that VIOLENT.

Arewa said...

Ok first of all the statement abt vowing not to date any man again is a bluff!!
I know what it feels like to be seriouslhurt ny a guy but u get over it eventually, especially when the Right man comes along.

Lekans actions will definately be a confirmation of time to move on .. if i was Sade. This Lekan dude soundes too MACHO!!

I do not know what causes a man to hit a woman but lets just say in this case.. i just think that Lekan has issues...maybe he has a temper and is like one of those men who do no like to show signs of uncertainty or weakness at all.THEY ALWAYS LIKE TO IN CONTROL - MACHO.

I THNIK THAT THIS STORY IS VERY REALISTIC BUT JUST FEEL THAT THERE WAS NO NEED FOR LEKAN TO LASH OUT AT SADE LIKE THAT..ESPECIALLY OVER SOMETHING SOO PETTY.

I would have changed Sades character.. to one who would have knocked Lekan the *uck out.....lol

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

well, hitting a lady is bad behavior. i dont sade 4 stickin wit it this long, i mean am sure she was trying the bone head a chance. and good decision 4 choosing nevada to go back 2 him.

Manda said...

hmmmm, i have neva been hit by a man n dat's the part i dont like about the whole stori! why hit her,i'll sure pretend call 911 if i was sade, dat way i guess he'll beg n learn his lessons.

Jotees Trendz said...

hmmm! sounds very familiar! If he hits you the first time, he'd hit u again and again and again and it won't stop. So my advice for dear is to take a niccccceeee long walk.
the most annoying thing is after he hits you, he comes back and cry like a baby and start to beg....shoo...he's a devil in disguise and you don't want to play with peeps like him.

Jotees Trendz said...

Oh and i forgot to add...someborri needs to tell lekan to enroll in anger mgt class...ol' boy def got issues with managin anger and i bet other issues trail behind that too...ego, complex issues...he'd find out in anger mgt class.

Miss Opeke said...

What will you do if you were sade?

I will end that relationship immediately…no need for second thought because if he did it once, he will surely do it again.
If Phil & Sade are still in love why don’t they just continue? They both live in the States so what’s the problem…

Why do some men think hitting a lady is the solution to problems?

I believe a man who hits women is a coward…

What do you think of the story?

Interesting…I almost thought it was about you…I was so ready to tell you to tell him to “Hit the Road, Lekan…and don’t you come back no more”

What would you have changed about any character in this short story?

I would only change the situation that Sade stopped dating Phil because he moved to Texas…in fact; I will get her a job in Texas so she can rekindle the relationship with Phil…

Unknown said...

@eddie, lol u get a pack of plantain chips 4 being first.

when those ladies say all men are the same... I'm sure they're not excluding you o... haha the story is not about me my brother. Just something i wrote out of boredom but stuffs like that do happen so I figured why don't we talk about it?

@kafo "anybody that rubs mii the wrong way..." I thought that was funny and nice to know. he didn't slap her, he punched her

{like that would make it beter right?}

@arewa, Nice points... well stated. hahaahhahaahhh @ WHAT U WANT to change sade's character to.

@100, yup it's a terrible behavior

@manda .. that'll be cool right? watching him beg when you're not even calling the cops.

@labelle... I like the fact that u r keeping it real... being very realistic but at times it's easier said than done.

@OPEKE
I'll first of all thank you for reading patiently and answering every question in order.
"they both live in the states...." LEt's add a lil twist to it. Let's say they break up and phil leaves for texas. From texas, he leaves for the UK. Will your response still be the same as when he was just in texas?
hahahah if it was me. It would have been much more interesting. I don't condone such nonsence.. hitting a lady = pure nonsence...to me.

@ ALL, THank you all for the comments/advices/opinions. For those that thought it was about me, it's not. If that kain thing happen to me, I know say all of una go follow me go flog the bobo.. abi i lie?

I know many people still have more to say. the floor is open..

Miss Opeke said...

If I love a guy I don’t care if he is in Australia…I will get there and keep declaring my love for him until he is man enough to tell me, he is no longer in love with me. Na den I go fashie him side and nefer luk back like Lukman…Texas love will just be small…U.K love will be hot like fever don catch me…anyways, it is not me…it is Sade…lol

Aijay said...

Nice story. I share the same thoughts as Miss Opeke.

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Anonymous said...

What will you do if you were sade?
LEAVE HIM.

Why do some men think hitting a lady is the solution to problems?
THEIR COWARDICE AND INSECURITY MAKES THEM FEEL THE NEED TO ASSERT PHYSICAL VIOLENCE TO ASSERT THEIR AUTHORITY.

What do you think of the story?
ENGAGING.. FICTIONAL.

What would you have changed about any character in this short story?
WOULD HAVE MAYBE DEVELOPED PHIL&SADE'S LOVE STORY, TO BETTER UNDERSTAND WHERE SADE IS COMING FROM.

rethots said...

WHAT!!! "GBOOSHHHHHHHHHHHHH"
Of course that's it.
Though, i'd have said the Goodbye when he dropped me at home.

LurLar said...

Honestly....I would come down from his car,when we got to red light,nd bless him with a hot slap on his face.

Anonymous said...

Yup lol , it is sade... Easier said than done though oo opeke

that's kool then AIJAY

`Really appreciate your thoughts GEISHA

U betcha RETHOTS

LMAO@ bless him with a hot slap.
hahaahahhaaha I cna't blame you if you do that LURLAR

Anonymous said...

ahwww TAke it easy

I usually type and copy my comments...then paste it if things get messed up.

diary of a G said...

didn't get a chance to read this till now
laken reminds me of an ancient stone age man...kicking the door open and can't figure out how to use a CD player..lol
all he had to say was "baby am driving please change that song for me won't ya?

she did the right thing by erasing his number cos he showed to be violent from an early stage....not a good sign at all

am not a man that likes to hate on other men relationships when they get rocky cos most relationships do get rocky
so i think the break between Sade and Phil might just be needed but in the meanwhile they should both focus on bettering their selves financially, spiritually and personally so things work out better as a team if they do decide to reunite later in the future

Anonymous said...

LOL@ ancient stone age man
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U've made good suggecttions