Solution???

Many of us have fallen victim to sexual abuse during childhood.

Some of us are having problems in our relationships now
because we refused to address the past.
It's not easy to talk about but we have to try.
There is no moving forward
when you are holding on to pain from the past.
You cannot enjoy a new relationship
when you are holding on to what your former partner did to you.
You might not see what the future holds for you
when the past still controls you.
SPEAK UP about what you have been through.
SPEAK UP about rape
SPEAK UP about abuse

It's your first step to recovery........

SPEAK UP

And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman
and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women,
do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women,
be real to our women

PS: This month's looking busy... will update asap. until then

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STOP THE VIOLENCE

URGENT: 8 YEAR OLD DEFILED

Case 1

She ran around the neighborhood rolling tyres with the boys. They raced down to daleko bus stop to get akara(bean cake) and dundun(fried potato) just before the hide & seek game. A tap lands on her shoulder and it's deborah. "Brother segun wants to see you."
What for? I'm busy with my friends.. tell him I'll see him later.
One of her friends urged her to just go home and not be rude to a request made by an adult. She raced home and no one was home so she decided to watch the television. A knock is heard and she races to the door to find deborah again.
What again?
He said you should come that he wants to play with you.
Tell him his head is not correct(he's insane) hahaha
Okay
You're not about to tell him... ohhh you left whatever!
Segun's mum bursts into her room and yelled "se ori omo mi ni o pe? se egbe e ni?" (you called my child a lunatic. How dare you? Is he your mate?)
Rara ma mi o so be o but (no ma, I didn't say that, but..) She gets whooped with a broom before she could say a thing. "Get out there now and clean your brother up. He pooped in segun's room. "
Okay ma (in tears).
She headed to segun's room and realized that the mess had been cleaned but he wanted her to stay. He was her neighbor and he was about 10 or more years older than her. He'd call her everytime to come play with him. He'd then tell her to touch him in his privates and do other stuffs. He was always trying to get in her panties but she never let him.. she was little but she didn't feel comfortable with it. It took her many years to realise that she was being abused.He was not the only one that did that to her. One of her uncles did it too and they all do it in the name of playing with her. Of all the things they did and made her do, she never let them get inside of her. One of the male neighbors made her touch him and spilled {what she perceived to be milk at the time} all over her. She was made to do a lot of stuffs that made no sense to her. She was only 6 years old at the time.

Case 2

The school proprietress was very fond of her for she was a very smart student. She had access to places where most students couldn't go. On this particular day, she was sent to go the room (where no student in the school had been)to get some items. A guy was told to follow her to help her get some items incase it was too heavy. She gets in there to realize that the room was half empty. She turns to the guy and he says "lets play"
Knowing all the stuffs she's been made to do she says leave me alone or I'll scream
It's too bad no one can hear you.
Leave me alone NOWWWWWW (she screams but no one was nearby)
He grabbed her by the arm and pinned her to the wall. She kicks and pinches but it had no effect on him. He was stronger than she was. Tears rolled down her eyes as he unbuttoned his trousers. She flashbacked and remembered what one of the boys (her childhood friend) told her you could do to hurt someone. Without thinking twice, she grabbed his manhood with all her strength and twisted with all her might. He squirmed and screamed like a fat kid with no chocolate. He begged her to let go but she refused. She could see pain in his eyes and she loved the sight of it. She wanted him to realize that he picked the wrong one to mess with. She made him scream in tears
Please pleaseeee
Promise me you'll never do that to any girl ever again...
I promise
{squeezing harder} I can't hear you
I puhh mise I promise
She didn't let go still. She headed to the door and kicked the door open. She released him and ran as fast as she could. He saw her afterwards (weeks after). He gave her an evil look and looked away as fast as he could. She was about 10 at the time.

Case 3

She was beaten for saying NO to everything. She was forced to do a lot and she had no choice. She was a child. Saying NO meantdisrespect to an adult in the kind of community she was. There was no one to talk to, she couldn't even explain what they were doing to her because she didn't know what it meant until she reached puberty. She was exposed to a lot of sex and violence and she did all she was told to do. Never...not for once, did she let anyone go inside of her...She gets away with "you told me that was a toy and I could play with it, why can't I just play with it now? "... Whenever she didn't feel like "playing", she was beaten or forced.

When she had her first boyfriend, she didn't let him touch her because she thought he was just like the men from the past. She'd scream whenever he tried to get close to her...She wanted to stay away from him but she couldn't because she was in love. The first time she let him hold her hands... she trembled because she thought he was going to ask her to play like they all did. He placed her hands on his heart and asked her to feel his heart beat... he hugged her and told her everything would be okay. It took her 3 years to even let him hug and kiss her. He made her realise that she didn't deserve all she went through in the past and that she could and should open up to him. She did and her life has changed since then. This girl is sharing her story in a summary. You cannot imagine the pain she went through deep inside. She never had the guts to open up to anyone except her bf. He helped her feel comfortable among others and he helped her open up more to share this with yall.

She couldn't have told anyone even if she tried. No African feels comfortable with that... especially in Africa. She wants every guy out there to know that she is for the fight that will eliminate women violence. SHE IS FOR THE FIGHT THAT WILL ERADICATE FEMALE VIOLENCE because they did not wait for her to become a woman before they abused her emotionally, physically, and sexually. She still hurts and she tries not to think about the past. Time has passed but the memory cannot be erased. She's here today to say STOP THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN.

SHE WAS & IS OLAMILD