Saturday, September 1, 2007

Just 3 Words

I apologise for not updating frequently. I've been quite busy with work and school and i believe yall understand... I want to say happy bday to princessa... sorry I missed it. happy bday, married life, new job etcetera to all....I am in between a wedding a birthday party today. I was to graze a birthday party with a song or poem.... the wedding is also a must attend for the bride is a lovely friend of my church... ahhhhhh twas a hard choice and i settled for the bday party which i will be attending a few hours from now with my hair looking like a squirrel's tail. It's a very busy weekend cus i have another occasion to attend tomorrow. It will be taking place at cobo hall. I wish you all a won-der-full weekend and i am sharing 3 words with you. Keep it and use it.

There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.

6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

B o n u s : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.

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23 comments:

cinnamonqueen said...

This is absolutely amazing. Such inspiring set of three words, my favourite being the last set!

'Maybe you're right,' we should use these words more often. :)

Andrew F. Alalade said...

Hard to use them though...sometimes how we say them also matters!
And you've changed your pic.

Unknown said...

@ andy... I am assuming u like the older pics better

@cinnamon, let's just do what's best 4 all of us

Admin UD said...

I've updated my internal dictionary. thanks for sharing :)

Sam Oracle said...

Now those are more than three.
How do you explain that?
Let me help; i really wouldn't say if i can't help

I understand you; you must understand the person before you utter this statement

I respect you: if the person is worth respecting

I miss you; this is not hard to say

Maybe you're right; that is if the person is right, good thing you said "Maybe".

Mommy said...

Thank you Ola!!
Those are my set of three words.
:o)

diary of a G said...

so you chose the B day party over the wedding? I aint mad at ya

wow am starting to get an idea of who you are and I must say you're a deep person

loved this and your last post
I've got just 1 word
TRUE

GERALD said...

I have alot to copy from this post.

eddiie said...

No.1-2-3 sounds realisitic.And how good if those were applied in real life.

Some of these are just the impression of movies.

The world today is made in movies. But pretty good way to help?...

Anonymous said...

WORD!! Loving dis write-up...couldn't be said better

♥♫♪nyemoni♫♪♥ said...

Maybe you're right!!

LOL...I like the post girl..thanks!

Unknown said...

@ Ugo, u r more than welcome

@oracle, Maybe u r wrong hahahah The phrase "Maybe" is like might... it doesn't make the person right." U r right" is different from " Maybe u're right" my brother... easy o... Abt the understanding thing... we all understand people as we grow older with them.

@mommy, I'm glad to hear that

@diary.. always a pleasure to hear 4rm ya bro. da party was very classy (not what i expected) by the way.

@ gerald, Let the copying and posting begin

@ eddie, they are not impression 4rm movies. they are the lil things that surround us (that could do us good) but we fail to make use of them.

@ labelle and nyemoni.... I like the fact that u 2 have learnt one or two things.. all the best

@ all, how was your weekend?

Manda said...

weekend was aiight but i saw more than 11 words here though i loved it all. Going over to read about ur weekend. Hope the skul n work stress is not eating u up?

Anonymous said...

yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay, olamild has updated. I cant believe my comment is so far down, **hiss**. Its never happening again.

Thanks for sharing those words, they sure do mean a lot. And thanks for all the comments.

Jayn Sean said...

I use ''I'm sorry'' very often bcoz i'm the kinda person who's short tempered and when i do lose my temper i get to say things i'll regret later.

Thanx for the post. Gues i'm doing right.

Miss Opeke said...

Abeg no vex wit' me...I nefer fashi u o...

Aijay said...

I love you!
Lol..
Nice post babes.
Love it!

Unknown said...

I been wan ask say na who adultnap opeke o? my prayer and fasting don work finally. how life now my sis?

@ manda, we thank God. Things r getting better.

@sparkle hmm what?

@chicala, yayyyyyyyyyychichi is back. If u want to be the first to know abt the update.. i got a special going on .... u'll be updated for 3 months for just $9.95

@ jaybabe, keep on keeping on

@ aijay, got nuttin but loff 4 ya.

UnNaked Soul said...

absolutely amazing...
as selfish as i can be sometimes, i tend to use these words alot... esp during persuasion :-D

hey. how about this:
Lets get unNaked
*wink*

Rinsola said...

Difficult as it may sound to say, powerful the effect it carries. You know one thing all these three words have in common? The selflessness in them. Howz ur week coming missy?

Unknown said...

@uunaked... silly u

@rinsola... U r right my sis... it'll cost nothing but utterance...yet we find it difficult to do. my week's been hectic by the way

Arewa said...

wELL SAID...in everyway.. good read. Justdiscovered ur blog. will definately be back. x x x

Unknown said...

hope 2 see mor eof ya. tanx 4 stopping by beauty